Welcome to the Sweet Pea Project's Blog, part of the Sweet Pea Project's effort to create a supportive and compassionate community for those of us affected by the death of a child. Here you will find updates on the Sweet Pea Project, as well as anything going on in the world that relates to childloss. If you have a suggestion for a topic you would like to see discussed here, I'd love to hear it. Please make sure you stop by the official website, www.sweetpeaproject.org and feel free to email me for any reason at anytime at Stephanie@sweetpeaproject.org.
peace, Stephanie Cole (Madeline's Mom)

Thursday, May 6, 2010

Pennsylvania's MISSing Angel's Bill

Pennsylvania, which sadly holds the record for most failed attempts to pass the MISSing Angels Bill, is finally moving forward with SB620, and things are looking promising. SB620 passed Senate Appropriations Committee unanimously on May 4th and will be voted on by the Full Senate during the week of May 24th.

For those of you who aren't familiar with the MISSing Angel's Bill, this important piece of legislation allows states to issue a Certificate of Birth Resulting in Stillbirth to parents of stillborn babies. As it stands right now in Pennsylvania (and 22 other states, as well) parents of stillborn babies are offered only a Death Certificate. The names of the children are not kept in medical files and they are not counted in infant mortality records. This is not only inconsiderate, it is irresponsible.

After her son Max was stillborn on December 28th, 2009, Nicole Spadea Jackson joined the fight to pass this legislation in Pennsylvania. She has been interviewed for newspaper articles and has appeared on several television news programs. (Links to each of these interviews can be found on the Sweet Pea Project's Legislation page.)

In an effort to gain national attention for this issue, Nicole is in the process of putting together a small book of pictures and brief stories for the children who deserve the recognition a Certificate of Birth Resulting in Stillbirth would provide. I was honored to provide a Foreword for that book, and I thought I would share it with you here.


This book is dedicated to the life of each and every one of the beautiful little babies that are stillborn each year. In this country, there are approximately 26,000. These are not pregnancies that didn't work out. These are deeply loved and desperately missed babies who died before taking their first breath, but who were born just the same. Their mothers labored for hours or underwent surgery to bring their perfect little bodies into the world. Just like every other newborn, these babies were bathed and swaddled, cradled and kissed, sung to and cried over. The only difference is that our tears were not tears of joy.

On top of the already overwhelming pain of having to say hello and goodbye all in one breath, we were told that only 27 states offer a Certificate of Birth Resulting in Stillbirth, and ours (PA) is not one of them. At least not yet.

The mothers asking for this come from all walks of life, each with their own values, morals and beliefs. What matters is what they have in common, they are all mothers. Mothers who have suffered the unspeakable loss of a beautiful daughter or son. All we ask is for our children to be recognized as having been born, and included in infant mortality records. With 1 in 115 babies dying of stillbirth, it seems irresponsible that they are not counted. It is our hope that more accurate records will lead to better research, and maybe that will save other mothers from suffering through the heartbreak of losing a child.

Our children may have come into this world in silence, but we as mothers simply cannot stay silent any longer and allow the truth of our motherhood to be denied. Max deserves a birth certificate. Madeline deserves a birth certificate. Each baby in this book and every single one of the 26,000 stillborn babies born in this country each year deserve a birth certificate. Please take a moment to page through this book, read our stories, and look at the pictures of our precious children. If, after doing so, you agree that these little ones count, then please join me in raising awareness of the need for an important piece of legislation, the MISSing Angels Bill.

Thank you to Nicole Spadea Jackson, the amazing, dedicated mother of Thomas Maximus Jackson, for putting this book together and breathing new life into this movement.

And thank you to YOU for taking the time to listen to a story that so few people are willing to hear.

Stephanie Paige Cole, Madeline's Mom


If you aren't already involved, than I encourage you to be a part of this movement. You can find links to informative pages from the MISS Foundation, the PA CBRS page and a Petition at the Sweet Pea Project's Legislation page. We need this bill to pass in all 50 states before we will be able to see widespread change in the way stillbirths are handled and recorded in the medical community. Thank you for your support.




  1. Thank you for this information, how can I know if my state has that law.

  2. Dora, if you go to the MISSing Angels Bill website there is a list of every state and where they stand. If your state hasn't already passed it, there should be a contact person listed for your state- contact them and see how you can help move the bill forward. If you have any questions or need any advice at all please don't hesitate to contact me: Stephanie@sweetpeaproject.org